Spirit Grooves

The Essential Em – October 2012

By on October 18, 2012

I’m going to try to keep this going each month. Otherwise her brilliance, her weirdness, who she is in this moment in time… will be absorbed into the vagueness of history.

This is probably more for the true Em-ophiles, but who knows, there might be something for everyone. She comes up with great ideas.

For reasons of her own, she dressed in a fish costume from when she was 3. Squeezed into it and then went to swing and sing. With light up princess shoes, of course.

Thanks to whoever gave us this silly thing.

This one actually started as my own brilliant idea… to decorate plain, organic cotton onesies for my sister’s baby shower. Naturally, Em took over completely and I didn’t get to decorate anything at all. Yet. I stealthily ordered some more stuff that’s just for me to work on. I need to contribute some love to my new niece. This was all supposed to be for the shower, but Em understandably wants to give them to her auntie herself. Of course, she wants to set up a store and let her auntie come and “buy” everything she wants.

 Patee…

Let me tell you a story about Em’s beloved friend. She named him Patee (Pah -Tee -accent on the Tee) She had a Bubble bath and for some (insane?) reason, she decided that the bubbles were a being and as the tub drained, she said “goodbye patee, goodbye, I love you…..” Then I got her out and dried her off and she started to cry, then sob. Patee was gone, he’d never be back, he was alone and sad…. Seriously. She was heartsick. I started out being understanding, but honestly started to lose it. Stephen is the one who had the “aha moment”. She’d been really obsessed with a fear that I would die. It had been going on for at least a week. Every night she’d cry and be afraid to go to sleep. She was afraid to leave me to go to school. She said, “I just want to be with you every minute.” Well, when we saw that her pain and grief for her bubble friend was very real, we realized she’d found a way to release some of that fear and sadness. Maybe even to process it. I do think that was what was happening. Intense, right? And yet, still exhausting and a bit frustrating. This picture (above) is my attempt at helping her. Also hoping to figure out what the heck she was thinking and feeling. I said we’d write everything we love about Patee and she said all these things. It helped a bit. She had us read it over and over to her. Then I had an idea… I filled a bowl with bubble water and showed her. She was SO happy. But also afraid he’d be gone by morning. I think we did the right thing only because it seems to have run it’s course with no real trauma for her. I did check those bubbles every time I got up at night and I stirred the heck out of it to bring them back before she woke. It was the first place she ran to. I had to keep the bubbles going for a day or two. Now she just asks occasionally where Patee is. I say he’s around somewhere. Feeling honest because there are bubbles somewhere.

This is one of her great signs. It says “Hug Kiss House” then a picture of lips and arms. She hung it on the wall in our bedroom. I also think her graphic design sense in incredible. I love those arms.

And once again she shows me how it’s done. She came home from school saying, “I need a box!” Apparently she and her dad had listened to the old song, “The Name Game” and she decided she’d make a board game called The Name Game. Here’s what gets me. I’ve had at least 3 great ideas for board games. My mother still talks about one of them because she thought it was so brilliant and she has wished I would have done something with it. My daughter just schooled me again. She doesn’t wait. She came in and made 3 different games. She just did it. I love this kid.

This is The Name Game. It says, “Nuh, nuh, nuh, nuh, nuh, name game” (sung).

She also made a game called “Love Game”  Isn’t that cover great? And below is the inside, board and game pieces; a boy and girl.

This one is “Fly Catcher” and inside is just the catcher and fly.

Apples!

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Comments

  1. Munchberry
    October 19, 2012

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    So cute and a terrific idea. We have a picture of my sister in the limbery pose… but she is biting her toenails in the picture. I trot it out every time she comes for a visit.

    Good times.

    • treepeters
      October 28, 2012

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      Oh my gosh, I spent so much childhood time doing toenail biting yoga!
      And I have 5 sisters who love to remind me of several things. Love the sisterly code!

  2. Melissa
    October 21, 2012

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    This is so wonderful! I think I qualify as a true Em-ophile. She is such a brilliant and fascinating kid! Love the costume, the onesies, her games, and that apple slice photo, too. Great shot! The story of Patee is so interesting. It’s easy to get frustrated and annoyed and the seemingly ridiculous things our kids come up with (and believe me, I do it!), but it’s great to have reminders like this story that there’s usually something very real and very important beneath it all. I forget that a lot. It sounds like you handled it perfectly.

    • treepeters
      October 28, 2012

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      oh thank you. I hope I handled it well. It’s so nice to have other moms I respect so much to share with and be supported by. xoxo

  3. Ellen
    October 23, 2012

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    This kid is smart as a whip. And thank goodness she has an incredible Mom to capture these moments for her so she’ll always have them.

    • treepeters
      October 28, 2012

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      I feel I should start telling the not so great stories about my parenting. I’m making myself sound more “incredible” than I am, I think. But I appreciate your thinking so. Thanks.

  4. jan
    October 23, 2012

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    What a fun kid! Love the fish costume. Dress up is so much fun!

    • treepeters
      October 28, 2012

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      it is, isn’t it?! I don’t even know where that fish came from Someone handed it down to us and it sat there for years. See, that’s why I can’t get rid of stuff like that… she found the moment for it.

  5. beerab
    October 25, 2012

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    Haha she’s adorable, so smart too! I love the last picture, like Tyra would say “that’s fierce!”

    • treepeters
      October 28, 2012

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      Tyra, that’s so funny. thanks.

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